Remaining Calm is a Superpower

Sue Spence
Mar 26
2 min read

In my article Coping Strategies for Living with a Debilitating Illness I speak about avoiding negativity and negative people. Unfortunately, my first marriage had a lot of negative aspects that took me a long time to see them for what they were. One of them was my then husband used to "push my buttons" to get a reaction out of me, which he would, as I would get so worked up and angry and start shouting. This of course just gave him the power over me.

It was only once I was in therapy for the first diagnosis of depression that I realised the power he had over me and needed this to change. It took a lot of self-control and courage, but I will never forget the look on his face the first time I didn't respond that way to him. I saw how it took the power away from him and gave me the power over him in that situation.

I felt so much better about myself after that, it gave me the boost of self-confidence I needed that YES! I can make it on my own, and I can now remain calm in most situations. I have learned to live by the serenity prayer: changing the things I can, letting go worrying about the things I can't change, and I'm learning to tell the difference between the two.

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